On Being a Girl !

Coming from an Indian background where girls are married off at quite an early age it is evident that I have my own share of thoughts or views on various issues.

Today I would majorly concentrate on the most Important and prominent topic “How it feels to be a girl”

I would be dishonest if I said I haven’t had a satisfactory life or haven’t enjoyed it to the fullest. Thanks to my Dad who had his firm belief in me & bestowed upon me with all that I wanted or ever asked for.

However there are times in my life when I wish I had more liberty, to discover the world, move out & craft a whole new identity for myself.

Growing up, I came faced numerous hurdles, sometimes when I made key decisions of my life. People tried to bring be down, tried to demoralize me but I didn’t give up. I had chosen a path & I made sure I walk the path to achieve the goals I envisioned.  

When I graduated from college and was preparing for my MBA entrance exams, I had a relative come over to my house & he spoke to my dad about getting me and my sister married. My sister who is just a year older – was busy doing her Post Graduation at that very time. He said things like “Why are you letting your daughter’s pursue higher education, It is becoming extremely difficult to find grooms for girls these days, with education their expectations have gone high!”

For a moment after that man walked out from my house, he had influenced my dad with whatever he said – My dad did speak about marriage after that. However, after some time he forgot about it.

Education has been of utmost importance for everyone in my family. My dad constantly supported us when it came to education & motivated us to set high goals which we would never falter to achieve. Now as I grow up and have stepped the corporate ladder, there are certain boundaries or restrictions I have to keep in mind & follow.

When I speak about going to another city for a meeting my dad is very hesitant & disapproves for the same. When I talk about going to another country he once more disapproves. It is not because he doesn’t want me to grow and be successful; it is because he is overly protective because “I AM A GIRL”

The only thing which really upsets me is - My brother can go abroad for further studies, He can carve a career out for himself abroad, He is allowed to go on trips to other cities or for that matter other countries & while he can do all of the above mentioned things “I CAN’T” do the same. Not because I don’t have the competence but because the society will not like it & will scoff at us. 

Why does the society talk about marriage as soon as we finish our education & plan to work? Why can a boy think about his career but a girl can’t? Why such Double Standards?

I have least interest in the society; I don’t even care what they think about me. All I want to do is to live my LIFE my way. I’m sure there are many girls like me who feel the same, & who face similar issues daily. Every so often I feel like a bird whose wings have been cut off & can’t fly. 

When will the society learn to mind their own business & treat us “girls” equally? For how long will we have to curb our desires & do things according to the society? Only if dad knew & didn’t bother about what the society thinks but how it feels “On Being a Girl”….. 

Feel Blessed

Every day we crib about not getting what we want. About our mood swings, love life, friends & heartbreaks.  Its so easy for us to keep complaining & cribbing for the wordly things. Ever imagined how life is for those sleeping on the streets, earning their daily bread with the daily wages that they get by doing such extremely difficult life threatening jobs which just sends a shiver within us.

We have been blessed to have been born & brought up in families where we have got everything we wished for. Our parents have worked hard to make sure we get everything  we deserve & taught us the importance of education & being self-independent.

Whenever I see those children on the streets begging or working for their daily bread my heart aches. I just close my eyes & thank God for having given me all that I have.

Here are a few pictures I clicked walking down the street the other day. A child sitting on the street & a woman making Diya’s for Diwali…

MBA life ends

Since i haven't written any post for a while i thought i'll just write a small post today. So finally College life comes to an end and  looking forward to a new beginning. I can't believe MBA life of 2 years passed as if it were 2 months!

I recall how everyday we kept cribbing about our projects and presentations but somehow we just managed to balance our life + sleep ( 2-3 hrs at times) and social life (which was almost dead) lol..
Friends kept abusing of having build up an attitude and not having time for them. I'm sure they'll know the pressure when they are in the same shoes.

 Now looking forward to where life takes me. Couldn't feel more happier for having been blessed with the best.
Thank you everyone for your support , Special thanks to my lovely Parents :)

People who shape our lives

When you first meet a person you start perceiving things about him. These perceptions with time prove either right or wrong.

Most of the times what we think about the person before knowing him turns out totally opposite when we get to know him personally. A person who looks cold hearted, rude and hot headed turns out to be someone as soft as a cotton. Sometimes people whom we hate in the beginning become our favorite and most loved. Our parents, who scold us, criticize us when we do wrong don't do it because they want to hurt us, they do it because they want us to learn. If nobody cared we would never know where we went wrong and where are we supposed to work on ourselves.

Similarly, Teachers are our second parents, they love us just the way our parents do. They take care of us, scold us, criticize us, love us and support us. Our life wouldn't be worth a penny had they not been there for us. Whatever we are today and whatever we will be in future is and will be only because of our teachers/mentors. The way our parents teach us to walk holding our hand our teachers make us walk to compete against the world, to fight, to be different . While doing this they inculcate ethics and values in us. Mostly teachers who are very strict with their students are also ones who love them the most. They shape our lives and try to make it perfect from each angle.

A Teacher is someone who is a guide,support,counselor and motivator to each one of us. More than all of this a teacher is a friend. They guide us towards the right path, motivate us to do better. It is they who make us believe in ourself, they who teach us to keep trying and believe in us. Most of the times, we try harder to achieve a goal just because we know that if we didn’t they would be more hurt than us. When we bring smile on their face it is the moment of satisfaction, we feel we actually achieved something. Their immense faith and trust in us is what makes us work hard and do better each day.

Just like Parents love us unconditionally, our teachers do the same. No matter what you do, they’ll always be there to love you, hold your hand and teach you which path to take. Always there to give you that extra push needed when you think you “can’t” and when they make you believe u “CAN”.